Lucy's story

In what specific ways are you finding the way we are working together helpful?

We explore patterns of behaviour, and look at the past broadly and deeply to find unhelpful behaviours.

What difference is it making to you and what changes has it enabled you to make?

I'm realising by putting others first and myself second or third that I'm storing up problems, work, other patterns for the future and not achieving my potential which is making me resentful and wonder why I feel resentful as I was becoming so disconnected from my own emotions and life. Also to follow my emotions as they are signs that I'm not content.

What has been the impact on your relationships?

Speaking up but also trying not to take into account too much in how the other person will be affected and letting that influence my decisions too greatly. Boundaries are very important. 

Can you highlight one or two critical moments which were particularly significant?

Understanding that these patterns developed in childhood. Realising that I'm not clear in what I want because I'm trying to be considerate but actually I'm confusing. I also avoid difficult conversations and tasks even though I'll benefit from them.

What could we do differently to be even more effective?

I'm going to summarise what I've learned so I can revisit this when I need to. I wish I had met you sooner maybe I'd be in a more productive place or further along the journey I want to be and quicker.